While, my worry about LG’s development is fleeting (petulant tantrum attitude notwithstanding), I feel as if at 3½, the Mini’s development is still a constant source of anxiety for me. I’m sure that this will always be the case.
We enrolled him in our local Y camp program. He went there last year for four weeks throughout the summer, to help him continue to acclimate to going to school in the fall, and hello? Newborn Hell. He really loved going, and it helped my sanity. This year, he’s going every other week, and on top of weekly speech through the IU , it’s really helped his social skills and language tremendously. His pragmatics are getting better, and we’ve both noticed a lot less echoing. The things that come out of his mouth, are things that typical kids say, and it makes me beam.
But with the good things, also come the bad. And that is behavioral issues. Part of this is because he’s stopped napping over the past month and a half. He still needs rest time, but he doesn’t really seem to comprehend that. So, while he does get daily rest time, without question or negotiation, he chooses to use that time to thunder around his room like a heard of elephants. Dude, how a three year old can make an entire 3,000 square foot house shake, is impressive. Because he’s not taking time in his day to either rest or sleep, the latter half of the day is sheer hell. He’s defiant, screamy, tantrumy and downright, asshole-ish.
And because this is my first three year old, I worry about him having behavioral issues down the road. Maybe this is just normal three year old behavior. He’s as good as gold at school. Never once did I ever have “the talk” with any of his teachers. He’s not a mean or an agressive kid. Yet, at home, he’s yelling, and blatantly pushing LG for no reason. The yelling, I’ll admit is learned from us, as I feel as if we’re both yelling at him more frequently, and I don’t want him to grow up thinking this is OK, because we’re not yellers, and I don’t want either of them to grow up in a yelling household, but his behavior and attitude as of late have pushed me to my breaking point. He yells at the dogs, torments them, pushes and hits his sister. And yet, at the pool today, he politely gave the kid a turn with one of the pool fountains, and then kindly told him “ok, now it’s my turn.” And those moments where he’ll be in the car and politely say “Mama, can I watch a little Calliou when we get home, please?” (we’re huge sticklers for manners, which is something we’re often complimented on when people interact with him)
So what the hell? Is he just being a dick because he’s three, or am I looking at major issues as he gets older?