The Mini had is eval with our local intermediate unit on Monday. I had been somewhat dreading it, mainly because I know that I’m going to have to fight, to get an IEP for him. His current teachers have long suspected that he would test completely age appropriate during this eval, and he did. Sure, you might think, this is a good thing, and yes, I’m happy he’s finally caught up to his peers, and there is no denying that my child is very smart. I don’t say this to brag, because God knows, I did not teach him half of the stuff he’s learned. He just does it on his own. However, he is what his preschool teacher calls, a grey area kid. And she’s hit it the nail on the head exactly. He’s not on the spectrum, he’s not delayed, but yet, he is. He has a hard time grasping progressive and receptive language. He has a hard time with spontaneous language.
The people who did his eval were impressed. I however, was not. He learns differently. He is going to have a hard time in school because of this. It’s my job to make sure that like me, he does not fall through the cracks. I don’t want him for one second, growing up thinking that he’s not smart enough, or as good as his classmates. I want him to learn in the way that best benefits him. I struggled for a long time, wondering whether or not I should even bother with getting an IEP, so that he wouldn’t be targeted by other kids. I know how cruel kids can be, but I also know that I should have been given help and my parents didn’t really push for it. As a result, I struggled in school my entire life. And as a result, my parents were always disappointed that I didn’t excel to their expectations. “If you just apply yourself…” I don’t think they understood exactly how hard it was for me, even when I did apply myself. I’m not stupid. I know this, but I struggled, and because of all of these factors, I hated learning. I hated school. The Mini loves to learn, and I never want that to change.
And if that means that I need to have some stupid piece of paper to ensure that, someone better bend over.