Black, white, grey.

by statia on February 10, 2010

The Mini had is eval with our local intermediate unit on Monday.   I had been somewhat dreading it, mainly because I know that I’m going to have to fight, to get an IEP for him.   His current teachers have long suspected that he would test completely age appropriate during this eval, and he did.  Sure, you might think, this is a good thing, and yes, I’m happy he’s finally caught up to his peers, and there is no denying that my child is very smart.  I don’t say this to brag, because God knows, I did not teach him half of the stuff he’s learned.  He just does it on his own.   However, he is what his preschool teacher calls, a grey area kid.  And she’s hit it the nail on the head exactly.  He’s not on the spectrum, he’s not delayed,  but yet, he is.  He has a hard time grasping progressive and receptive language.   He has a hard time with spontaneous language.

The people who did his eval were impressed.   I however, was not.   He learns differently.  He is going to have a hard time in school because of this.   It’s my job to make sure that like me, he does not fall through the cracks.   I don’t want him for one second, growing up thinking that he’s not smart enough, or as good as his classmates.   I want him to learn in the way that best benefits him.   I struggled for a long time, wondering whether or not I should even bother with getting an IEP, so that he wouldn’t be targeted by other kids.  I know how cruel kids can be, but I also know that I should have been given help and my parents didn’t really push for it.   As a result, I struggled in school my entire life.   And as a result, my parents were always disappointed that I didn’t excel to their expectations.   “If you just apply yourself…”  I don’t think they understood exactly how hard it was for me, even when I did apply myself.   I’m not stupid.  I know this, but I struggled, and because of all of these factors, I hated learning.  I hated school.   The Mini loves to learn, and I never want that to change.

And if that means that I need to have some stupid piece of paper to ensure that, someone better bend over.

{ 5 comments }

Erin February 10, 2010 at 10:48 pm

Similar to Charlotte – when EI did her exit eval, she tested with no developmental delays in the 8 areas. In fact, she tested above chronological age in all of them. And, uh, HAHAHAHAHA. With her diagnosis, though, we were guaranteed an IEP which has been a complete and total god send. I know when she gets re-evaluated in 2 more years she’ll probably get dropped and then we’ll really be up shit’s creek but at least for preschool and kindergarten I’d definitely FIGHT for it.

Veronica February 11, 2010 at 1:47 am

This reminds me of Amy. Smart, but different. Good luck with the IEP.

Wendy February 11, 2010 at 10:32 am

The Kid has an IEP. He just got it this year after The General had fought for it since he was in 2nd grade. He’s in 7th grade now (some 8th grade classes) and has been through three schools before he finally got it. Not to be all good luck, sucker, but starting now is an AWESOME idea.

Orodemniades February 11, 2010 at 11:21 am

I hate it, but I’ll be taking the Chieftain to his (hopefully one and only) speech therapy visit soon. He’ll be 2 in March and there is no sign of wordage on the horizon. Oh, he says ‘thank you’ and car, dog, dad – all variations of inflections of ‘da’. I think I might be DA! too.

Le sigh.

Regina Heater February 12, 2010 at 5:56 pm

You nailed it: he learns differently. I’m wondering if there are any charter schools in your area that might meet his needs even more directly than an IEP. In my area, there’s this great (really expensive private) school that basically turns learning upside down by focusing on hands-on education. For example, math and chemistry are taught (in part) through cooking. I was a substitute teacher there for a year and I remember thinking that if my sister, who has a learning difference, would have had access to such education early on, it might have changed the way her elementary education years turned out. The class sizes were perfect for individualized attention even while teaching group cooperation/teamwork. Perhaps you could look into such an option in your area. (just a thought.)

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