You say goodbye, and I say hello.

by statia on July 12, 2006

With all of this good news around here, there’s bound to be some bad news. The Meester’s grandmother is rapidly declining in health. It’s forced us to make an impromptu trip up there this weekend to say our goodbyes (in my case, hello, as this will probably be the only time I will have met her). She turned 99 on Saturday and when the meester called to wish her a happy birthday, it was met with confusion and incoherent babble on her part. We sort of laughed because well, Grandma IS 99 and whenever we call to talk to her, you never know if you’re going to get aware Grandma or dementia Grandma. For being 99, she still mainly had her wits about her, with a few bad days here and there where she would just mainly repeat herself. The sad thing is, that when you get old, you don’t have age on your side to fight back illness. Grandma’s had cancer for a long long time, and her health took an abrupt turn for the worst, to the point where she’s on enough vicodin to put you, me, and everyone else reading this, under the table, yet she’s still nowhere near comfortable. At first it looked as if she wouldn’t make it through the year, then the summer, and now we’re hoping that she’s going to be able to hang on until we get up there.

We always joked that Grandma would live forever, but sadly, this doesn’t seem like it’s going to happen for her, and her rapid decline has been a shock to the Meester. Having your grandmother around for 30 years of your life is lucky.

Even though, she’s ready to go and it’s time for her to go, it still doesn’t make dealing with death any easier.


Chris July 12, 2006 at 9:58 am

My grandfather is in another world entirely and we’re currently helping my great uncle move into a retirement facility with his wife…who’s completely out there. It’s hard to watch. Someone better cap my ass when I’m old instead of letting me decline like that.

buzz July 12, 2006 at 11:08 am

You’re so right when you say “Having your grandmother around for 30 years of your life is lucky”. Few of us get that privelege. Strength to both of you in this tough time. Our thoughts are with you.

robyn July 12, 2006 at 11:22 am

Thinking of you both… I’m so sorry.

PaintingChef July 12, 2006 at 11:48 am

I’m so sorry. Have a safe trip, we’ll be thinking of you my dear.

Alisa July 12, 2006 at 1:42 pm

So this is his grandmother who is 99? Not his great-grandmother? My family generally had their kids in their early 20s, so my grandparents are younger. Please have a safe trip.

Lisa July 12, 2006 at 2:07 pm

I’m sorry. That’s never easy. Have a safe trip.

April July 12, 2006 at 7:29 pm

Thinking of you both.

Lenni July 13, 2006 at 6:12 am

What a difficult trip to make. My thoughts will be with you both.

Camille July 13, 2006 at 6:22 am

I’m saying a little prayer that you get there in time.

geeky July 13, 2006 at 6:44 am

wow, 99 is impressive! hopefully she can hang on until you guys can see her. when i was younger, my great-aunt died 3 days before we were going to visit her. i’ve always regretted not getting to see her sooner.

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