Well it’s a nice day, for a white wedding

by statia on July 13, 2003

First of all, to all the people that were on the belt parkway yesterday causing me to nearly miss my cousin’s ceremony, fuck you, I hate you all.

There, now that I got that out of my system. It was a kick ass weekend. The wedding was gorgeous and the weather couldn’t have been nicer. I’m exhausted. I drafted my friends to go with me. My friend Diana was my “date” and I made my friend Colleen go with my sister as her date. Lots of drinking was involved. There had to be, family was there. It’s no secret how well we all just harmoniously get along.

When I was a kid, I always wanted to be a part of my godparents family. Five kids, they were always laughing. They just looked like they were close. Not that I don’t think that now. Sure, most of the kids now have kids of their own, and they’re busy, but they still have those family values. I’ve also always adored my godparents.

I was really surprised to see my brother show up for this wedding. I’d describe my brother as a hermit, and the last time I remember him showing up for a function like this, is in 1996. I haven’t seen him or my sister in law in about two years.

My brother didn’t say anything to me until halfway through the night, and my sister in law didn’t not utter one word to me. Not one. Now, I know you’re thinking, “hey Statia, why didn’t you just go up and say hi yourself, it works both ways you know.” Well, yes, I know that thanks, but see when you’ve always done the work in the past and you’ve time and time again have said to them, “hey, don’t be a stranger” or “you know you can always call me” and they never do, it makes you feel like they really don’t give a rats ass. It’s like starting over everytime I see them. I’ve gotten sick of hearing her say she thinks no one cares, or that no one ever talks to them, when thy really don’t make any sort of effort to do anything or make any sort of contact. Apparently, whenever we did get together, it must not have been good enough for them to want to do it again. I never said don’t call, or I’m too busy to talk. I’ve just stopped trying because I don’t know if they’re just socially inept or they just really don’t have the desire to get together.

Obviously I’d be lying if I said I didn’t care. I don’t feel better knowing that we all have family issues, but I know how much it hurts.

{ 10 comments }

Tracy July 13, 2003 at 9:50 pm

Good job getting through the weekend. I wish I liked drinking more – it’d make my family get togethers MUCH more tolerable. I guess I’m probably more like your brother though – I like being home by myself, and unless somebody calls me, I often don’t make the effort to get together with them. ANd then I’ll realize it’s been months since I’ve even thought about visiting my grandma, and I feel terrible. …but I think where I was going with that is just that maybe it’s easier for him not to try, so he doesn’t. Not an excuse at all…just maybe insight into his psyche. Sorta.

Sean July 14, 2003 at 12:21 am

Holy bejesus…you said Fuck. Can we say that online?

Glimpse of a Lisa July 14, 2003 at 12:27 am

Busy weekend! I’m glad you made it even with assholes on the road.

Countess DeSquirrel July 14, 2003 at 2:43 am

Some of my family and I have issues as well. It can certainly be a drag that is for sure.

sphinxy July 14, 2003 at 10:03 am

If it wasn’t for the huge gas line at Molly Pitcher I would have made it home sooner. I can’t believe I only sat in traffic on the NJ Turnpike for 15 minutes. A new summer record!

Glad you had fun Miss Drunk-Dial ;) even though your family gives you grief. Tell em to cram it.

Stephanie July 14, 2003 at 11:33 am

You should feel better knowing we all have family issues – that’s what helps us build true family relationships with our friends, and say a general “screw you” to our real families who can’t find it in themselves to be there for us when we really need ‘em. And, as you already know, weddings bring out [the best and] the worst in people – as I am now finding out myself.

Chin up, cousin – of everyone on my Dad’s side, you are definitely my favourite!

Kevin July 14, 2003 at 2:26 pm

I was part of a wedding yesterday to. Hot as hell being stuck in a tux for most of the day let me tell you.

CIZ July 14, 2003 at 3:09 pm

i hope licking me was the best part of your weekend,.
do i get my own page of shout outs b/c i am leaving forever??
>;}~

Angel July 14, 2003 at 8:03 pm

So glad you had a good weekend (despite the family biz). I really do understand the pain…
Chin up chick! You rock. :)

Zuly July 15, 2003 at 8:07 pm

I’m glad the weekend didn’t turn out to be a total loss, and I think you were just right in waiting for him to make the first move. If he doesn’t like it, he can get his own blog. Love ya.

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